A letter to my mother

Jean Stephenson-Monday, April 18, 2016

Based on an article from The Guardian:

This is a story all about just one persons experience of abortion. There are millions of stories, and none of them are the same. No one story is ever, less hard hitting than this one. You see, each story of an abortion ends the life of the unborn child and this is why what we do, day in, day out, as pro-life advocates is so important. We need to change the culture of thinking in society. We need people to re-evaluate what it actually means to have an abortion.

This is a tragic story, one which begs many questions and prompts me to note a few observations: 

a) This mother appears only to regret not telling her mother because, with hindsight, she wished she had been there to support her when she chose to abort her child. No acknowledgement of the fact that this was also her mother's grandchild and how her mother may feel about that.  No mention that perhaps, if she had told her mother, she might have counselled her not to abort, that she would be there to support her through the pregnancy and there to help in caring for the child. It appears that she just wished her mother had been with her to 'hold her hand' as she went ahead with her plan to abort. 

b) She says that the technician made a mistake in showing her the scan of her 7 week old developing child.  Who knows, maybe, if the technician had also made the 'mistake' of allowing her to hear her baby's heart beat as the probe was positioned to check the gestational age, she might have changed her mind and kept her baby?  By 7 weeks - the measurement from last menstrual period (LMP) commonly used to estimate the due date - her baby's heart had already been beating for 2 weeks: the heart begins to beat just 3 weeks and 1 day from the point of conception.  By the time she had this scan, her baby would have had a good strong heartbeat.

This 'mistake' of showing the mother the scan picture of her baby shows that it is not normal procedure on the part of abortion providers to ensure that women are fully informed about the pre-natal development of their baby, rather, there is an unspoken collusion to hide the truth behind euphemisms like: just a procedure to remove  'tissue', a 'bunch of cells' a 'pregnancy' etc.  Anything but a tiny, developing baby.  How does this cover up allow women to make a fully informed 'choice'? 

c) The mother then waited 'a few more weeks' to go ahead with an abortion. No reason given.   By 8 weeks from conception (10 weeks from LMP) the baby is fully formed but has much maturing to do before he or she could survive outside the protective, nurturing environment of the womb.  Some babies have survived and done well when born as prematurely as 23 weeks with excellent neo-natal specialist care. Ideally though, a baby will spend the full term of gestation, protected in its natural environment, his or her mother's womb.

d) This mother must have appeared very anxious, judging by her own description of herself presenting for abortion yet she does not appear to have been given the opportunity to reflect and reconsider her decision.  Once the abortion is booked, it is just a clinical procedure to be got on with ...

d) The boyfriend: Presumably the father of the child sounds disinterested.  His role beyond impregnating his girlfriend seems to have been no more than to drive her to and from the abortion clinic and when she is clearly distressed, to encourage her to let her mother know.  He did not even need to pay for his child to be aborted as the NHS picks up the bill for all British residents having abortions in hospital or private clinics; and most abortions are carried out in private clinics such as Bpas and Marie Stopes.  With circa 200,000 abortions annually in the UK, that is a lot of money being directed to killing the pre-born that should rightly be spent on genuine health care.

So yes, a tragic story indeed but on more levels than intended in this letter this mother wished she could write to her own mother.

NB: For those who may object to the use of the word 'baby' for the child in utero, preferring the scientific term 'fetus' please note that 'fetus' is the Latin word which is translated in English 'Unborn (human) offspring' or 'Little one'. Both the fetus and the new born are living human beings and there is nothing magical about birth that turns a fetus into a living baby. Until quite recent times, it was normal to refer to a pregnant woman as being 'with child'. The term 'fetus' is sadly used today in a way that dehumanizes the child in the womb, rather being seen as disposable tissue, which brings us back to the terms used by abortion providers when they describe 'what is being aborted' to anxious women who want to be assured that they are not really killing a baby ... 

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